As someone who's arospec but in relationships before I get your feelings. even down to the bit about the therapist haha mine did that too and it always annoyed me. It felt so weird to have to tell my parents I had a boyfriend and I'm not sure they ever really understood but they've always been chill at least and my ex was good about it too. Great game!
Thank you for playing and letting me know you relate!! I was feeling very unsure about this little game and especially the line about the therapist, because on one hand... well, this is my lived experience, and now I really see anyone saying this to me as not willing to engage with what's going on and so I tend to see it as a red flag that this won't be a good fit... but on the other hand, I would hate to detract anyone from going to therapy if that's what they need!
This game felt very cozy to play. The choice of music was a really great fit for that! Like discussing your thoughts and feelings with a friend over a warm drink. I really enjoyed reading your thoughts. I, indeed, usually try to reach a point of "it doesn't matter what happens, it'll be okay either way", but I also understand how someone telling that to you can feel dismissive of your feelings. It's clear that your aromantic identity is important to you, and I think that everything you discuss is a common part of the aromantic experience. I don't think I've ever known an LGBT+ person -- aromantic or another identity -- who hasn't had some sort of "am I really (identity)?" crisis.
Also, through this game, I found the "amare" label for games! I'm so happy that this sort of game has a label. It warms my heart to see people trying to center feelings of those who write about relationships that may not fit the typical WLW, MLM and otome categories. So, thank you for introducing me to it!
Thank you so much for playing and commenting! I'm glad you enjoyed the game, and so happy that it introduced you to the "amare" tag! It's a wonderful approach to relationship-centred stories, I think, and I'm very proud to use it!
It's funny, I hadn't planned to mention therapy at all when I started writing the game but it sort of bubbled up anyway, and so I left it. I understand that it's a tool that helps a lot of people, and I think that's great. But after several years, I just don't think my issues can be reduced to "it will be okay either way", and unfortunately it seems to be the only tool that therapists have to offer me.
Anyway. Thank you for validating me! It's a little ironic that the experience of not feeling valid is so common and valid in itself, but such is life.
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As someone who's arospec but in relationships before I get your feelings. even down to the bit about the therapist haha mine did that too and it always annoyed me. It felt so weird to have to tell my parents I had a boyfriend and I'm not sure they ever really understood but they've always been chill at least and my ex was good about it too. Great game!
Thank you for playing and letting me know you relate!! I was feeling very unsure about this little game and especially the line about the therapist, because on one hand... well, this is my lived experience, and now I really see anyone saying this to me as not willing to engage with what's going on and so I tend to see it as a red flag that this won't be a good fit... but on the other hand, I would hate to detract anyone from going to therapy if that's what they need!
This game felt very cozy to play. The choice of music was a really great fit for that! Like discussing your thoughts and feelings with a friend over a warm drink. I really enjoyed reading your thoughts. I, indeed, usually try to reach a point of "it doesn't matter what happens, it'll be okay either way", but I also understand how someone telling that to you can feel dismissive of your feelings. It's clear that your aromantic identity is important to you, and I think that everything you discuss is a common part of the aromantic experience. I don't think I've ever known an LGBT+ person -- aromantic or another identity -- who hasn't had some sort of "am I really (identity)?" crisis.
Also, through this game, I found the "amare" label for games! I'm so happy that this sort of game has a label. It warms my heart to see people trying to center feelings of those who write about relationships that may not fit the typical WLW, MLM and otome categories. So, thank you for introducing me to it!
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Thank you so much for playing and commenting! I'm glad you enjoyed the game, and so happy that it introduced you to the "amare" tag! It's a wonderful approach to relationship-centred stories, I think, and I'm very proud to use it!
It's funny, I hadn't planned to mention therapy at all when I started writing the game but it sort of bubbled up anyway, and so I left it. I understand that it's a tool that helps a lot of people, and I think that's great. But after several years, I just don't think my issues can be reduced to "it will be okay either way", and unfortunately it seems to be the only tool that therapists have to offer me.
Anyway. Thank you for validating me! It's a little ironic that the experience of not feeling valid is so common and valid in itself, but such is life.